Mon, 28 September 2015
Why do we need money? What's it's purpose in our life and how should we view it?
What should be our goal in having or earning money?
Money is just a means to an end, which means the amount of money we need is dependent on what we want to gain with our money. Is it security? Significance? Indulgence?
Can money actually buy us happiness? I think so and I explain why. You'll have to listen, but it's not a simple concept and not as basic as "money buys happiness." Listen.
Money doesn't buy us "stuff," instead it buys us the experiences we hope to gain in having that stuff. Money really does buy us experiences and that's truly where we find satisfaction and happiness. But... that stuff we buy isn't the ONLY way we can experience that same happiness.
Since our happiness comes from our experiences, we change how we view them. When we are intentional about feeling gratitude for the things we experience in life, we find our happiness comes sooner and more often.
The Princeton Study
There is a study which came of Princeton University which indicated most people in America reach a peak level of happiness when they're earning approximately $75,000 per year.
There's nothing magical about that number, but in today's economy, they found this was the amount it took for someone to have all the necessities in life with a little extra for a few of the luxuries we all enjoy.
What's interesting is, the level of happiness seems to plateau at that point. Meaning, if you earn more than $75,000 per year, you don't see your happiness level increase much more.
I dig into this concept much deeper in the episode so make sure you take the time to listen and explore.
How much money is enough? Let's find out...
Mon, 21 September 2015
In this episode, we're going to look at this one critical component to authentic life-changes which will last. It's the reason we stop bad behavior or take up healthy behavior.
Dig into this episode and discover what it takes to make life better for you or those you love.
This episode comes out of my own desire to see others in my family set aside negative harmful behaviors and finally move forward in a positive direction in order to live the wonderful life I know they're capable of having.
Not only will you learn the key ingredient required, you'll also learn about the critical components which go into it.
You'll also learn how to balance the critical components in a way which will assure your success.
Mon, 7 September 2015
When we're emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically naked, we're forced to be honest and real with ourselves. When this happens, we can't hide behind something we may normally use to cover them up.
Four Ways to Cover Up
Oftentimes we employ various strategies or justifications for keeping ourselves "covered-up" so we don't have to deal with the truth of our nakedness. I've diluted these down to 4 general areas:
Each one of these is focused on the external which is outside of control. That makes it really easy to ignore the issue and continue on as we have previously. But, this leaves us short of our best.
We can only improve ourselves when we're honest about what needs to be improved and we can only be honest when we strip ourselves of everything we're using to cover up. We must get naked to know what's really going on.
Finding Our Real Support Team
When we're naked and honest about ourselves we find out who our real partners are in life. We discover who's going to be there to help us move forward. This doesn't mean we rely on others to take us there, but instead, use their support to help us move there on our own.
Don't Fall Into Complacency
One big stumbling point we can fall into when we're honest about ourselves is complacency. By that I mean, we are honest about our flaws, but we're not challenged to deal with them. We must find that balance between being honest and being complacent.
Getting naked and honest about ourselves isn't about championing our flaws either. Be careful you're not saying "well, that's who I am. Love it or leave it." That will not lead to improvement either.
I hope this episode helps you get honest and naked with yourself so you can humble yourself enough to seek the assistance you need to overcome the areas that need help. There is no real gain is projecting a false success.
Listen to this episode and give me your feedback on how you've not been honest in the past and what you're going to do to change the situation.
Sun, 30 August 2015
I remember back when I was just about 10 or 11 years old, seeing a book on my mom's bookcase, in her sewing room, call "Your Erroneous Zones." It was by a guy named Wayne Dyer. I didn't know anything about him or the book. My mom said it was about the power of thinking positive. That seems VERY interesting to me, even at that age.
Even though I dug into many book on the power of the human mind and how our thoughts shaped our world, I didn't really ever read much of Dr. Dyer's work.
In 2006, the host on our radio program gave each member of the show a copy of Dr. Wayne Dyer's book The Power of Intention. It was so far outside of my world-view it took me several months to really read it. But, when I did, WOW! This book lit me up like a 3000 watt light bulb. I couldn't get enough of it.
Today, I've read at least 7 or 8 of Dr. Dyer's books and he's be influential in shaping my views of the world and the one to come which Dr. Dyer himself is now inhabiting.
In this episode I explore some wonderful quotes from Dr. Dyer and explore my view of them and how they've affected how I live my life. I also give you some ways in which you can use them to find peace, joy and purpose in your daily life.
Here are the quotes:
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.
When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.
You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.
What comes out of you when you are squeezed is what is inside of you.
Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made.
I hope each of these quotes will not only inspire you but literally change you.
Mon, 24 August 2015
Here's what I cover in this episode:
This is probably the most asked question of me. "How do I figure out my life purpose?"
I dig VERY deep into this topic and explore WHY we all feel a need to know this. Basically, it's about feeling valuable, feeling as though our life has meaning and isn't just wasted energy. We all want to know it somehow matters.
No More Struggle
I don't want you to struggle any longer with this, so I've broken it down; letting you know what your ultimate life purpose is, as well as what your purpose is this year and even today.
Sounds impossible, I know, but really the answer is quite simple, yet incredibly complex at the same time. So come along on this journey with me and, in about 30 minutes, we'll discover exactly what you're supposed to do right now and for the rest of your life.
What Do You Think?
I would love to have your feedback on this. If this brings up an even bigger questions, please reach out to me in a number of ways:
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Sun, 16 August 2015
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Here's what I cover in this episode:
Experts calculate that you are lied to about 100 times every single day. Some days it's less, some days it's more, but on average, you're hearing about 100 lies per day.
Maybe that's easy for you to believe because you've been lied to so many times, but the truth is, there's someone in the world right now who is believing a lie because YOU told it to them. In fact, there's someone believing a lie today because I told it to them.
Why does it feel next to impossible to be honest, or have people be honest to us? It seems like we have to have some sort of lie at all times in an effort to protect ourselves or others,
In this episode, we're going to explore the world of lying and what it does to us, the people around us and the relationships we have with the.
Can A Lie Be A Good Thing?
If you immediately react to this question with a resounding "NO" you should really pause and listen to this episode. I give an example where lying is very clearly a good thing. If you don't believe me, you'll have to listen in and hear for yourself.
Sun, 9 August 2015
Here's what I'm going to cover in this episode:
The Fear of Mediocrity
What it is and how it manifests itself in our life. I'm going to look at perfectionism and how it can stop us from doing what needs to be done to achieve our goals.
We all have a maximum capacity for ourselves. I still believe, as humans we have an unlimited potential, but that don't mean in this moment, you have an unlimited ability. For example, even if you believe it, you can not hold your breath for 30 minutes. That doesn't mean man doesn't have the potential to develop to the point where we can do it, it just means, right now, you're going to go about 2-3 minutes and need to breath. Right?
I share an experiment where I try to hold my breath for as long as possible. I also share another experiment where I hold my breath for one minute, rest for 20 seconds and hold it again for 1 minute. Ultimately, I'm able to hold my breath for a longer period of time when I interject a break just beyond my comfort zone.
John Lee Dumas - Entreprenuer on Fire
You'll hear me get very vulnerable as I talk about why I felt compelled to do a daily podcast when I first started and how that lead to me failing repeatedly. Thankfully that failure has lead to improvement (as it always does).
I look at why John Lee Dumas was able to succeed doing a daily podcast and I wasn't. It's not about John trying harder or me having bigger hurdles, it's about capacity at that time. Listen and you'll understand much better.
It's not about being consistently frequent, it's about being frequently consistent. Just wanting to do more won't get you to do more. You have to have the capacity to do more and I didn't.
Mental Mastery Mondays
In this episode, I share about why I'm changing the show from Mental Mastery Moment to Mental Mastery Mondays. I'm taking this from a daily show to a weekly show and even expanding the length of the show when needed. Most of the time it will still be under 20 minutes.
I'm also going to include guests on my show from time-to-time if they fit. I'm not looking for the typical podcasts guest, but instead, people who are willing to talk about their struggles and how how they overcame them. I want people who will be honest and vulnerable, not just pom-pom carrying cheerleaders.
Call to Action
Review your own performance. Are you stretching beyond your grasp or staying inside of your comfort zone? If you are stretching, are you trying to go too far? Are you finding your effort comes in spurts with periodic collapses? You may be going too far.
Here are some of the resources I mention in this episode:
The 5 Fears Report - Find out what fears are keeping you from finishing what you've started and achieving your goals.
Other Podcasts You'll Enjoy:
How to connect with me:
Twitter - @PDesmondAdams
Email - Desmond@PDesmondAdams.com
Sat, 25 July 2015
Sometimes we need a little down-time to just relax, but this isn't the opportunity to fill your mind with worthless garbage
I refer to most mainstream television as "junk food for the brain" because, just like junk food, it fills you up but has very little nutritional value. Television will fill your mind but it has no beneficial value. It's like cotton candy, a lot of fluff that tastes great in the moment, but it brings nothing of substance.
Keep in mind, there's very little wrong with treating yourself to a little guilty pleasure once in a while, as long as it's not the norm. I have people in my life who's daily routine involves several hours worth of junk television. They've litterally run-off a list of TV shows ... "Do you watch this... how about this... or this?" They're amazed when I say "no, no, no." I just don't make it a practice to mentally ingest that. But, I do love to sit and relax and be entertained by other peoples amazing creativity.
Here is my list of 4 TV shows which are incredibly entertaining but also have some redemptive qualities to them. I hope you'll take a look at some of them.
The Profit with Marcus Lemonis
This is probably my favorite TV show.
Marcus Lemonis is the CEO of Camping World, but now he’s the part owner of numerous small and medium sizes businesses around the country, because of this television show.
He heads out to struggling businesses and helps them become profitable, by using his business savvy and industry know-how. He can usually come in and see exactly what's wrong with a business. In fact, I find that in most cases, just about anybody could see what's wrong, but when you're in the middle of it all, it's sometimes difficult to figure out.
One of the things I love about Marcus is that he doesn’t take any crap from anyone. There is plenty of words bleeped out in just about every episode. He will let an owner know when they're making a mistake or being dishonest with him.
You will learn SO much about running a business and the three elements Marcus says are vital to business success, People, Product and Process.
He’s huge on getting the right people into place and treating them incredibly well. Marcus treats the right people incredibly well, rewarding them verbally as wel as monetarily when it's justified.
The product has to be great and you have to focus on the right product, not EVERY potential product. That’s a huge lesson. I've seen so many businesses which have expanded beyond their core expertise and ended up losing so much money on the fringe items, it eats into the profit of that core.
The process has to be streamlined and efficient as well. He’s a master at finding opportunities to become more efficient while raising quality as well. The process is vital.
The Profit is available on CNBC.
You’ve probably seen the Shark Tank. It’s on prime time TV on ABC. In fact, you can head over to ABC.com and stream previous episodes any time you'd like. I'm a huge fan of "on demand" televisions. That puts me in control of my entertainment schedule.
Multi-millionaire and even billionaires sit as “Sharks” while start-ups present their business and ask the Sharks to invest. They ask for a specific amount and in return offer a chunk of the business. But it's very rare for someone to get exactly what they've asked for from the sharks. After all, they're sharks...
The Sharks are
Mark Cuban - Dallas Mavericks owner
Lori Greiner - Queen of QVC
Barbara Corcoran - Real Estate mogul
Daymond John - Started FUBU
Robert Herjavec - I mentioned him in episode 114 - Cyber Security firm
Kevin O’Leary - Mr. Wonderful - all about making money. Made his fortune on software for kids.
You’ll learn so much about what it takes to develop a product that’s attractive to investors. They ask all the questions about finances and patents and marketability.
It's not just business though, the sharks will sometimes key in on someone who has such a tremendous passion and partner with them. They know that passion is something you can't teach to someone, but all the other business stuff, they can. It's a great lesson. But it's not JUST passion.
Take a look at Shark Tank if you haven't watched it yet.
American Ninja Warrior
Even if you don’t workout or play sports, the people competing on American Ninja Warrior will take your breath away.
The best part of this show is that most of these people are just normal folks with normal jobs and pretty normal lives. They don’t have massive sponsors and they usually build crude training facilities in their backyards. They practice after work and on weekends. They show that, if you want it bad enough, you'll find a way to get it.
So, what do they do?
They take on some of the most treacherous obstacle courses ever designed. These are just a few examples. There are usually about 8 obsticles in a city finals. Once they go on to Las Vegas for the nationals, there are even more and the difficulty level goes through the roof.
There are countless other obstacles and some of them seem nearly impossible. There have been times when we've been watching competitor after competitor fail on one particular obsticle and wonder if it's possible. The amazing thing is, once one person makes it, it seems even more follow suit. The amazing power of the mind when we finally believe something is possible.
Some of the stories are incredbily inspriring. One example is Kacy Catanzaro, who is just 5 feet tall but she shocked everyone by being the first woman to qualify for the finals in Las Vegas. She was an animal and I’ll tell you, if you have young daughters or granddaughters, have them watch these athletes compete. It is so inspiring.
This TV show will motivate you to push through and do what you originally thought was impossible. I’m not just talking about physical abilities, but all abilities. If they can push through and make it on this course, you can get through whatever obstacle is standing in front of you.
It’s on NBC or you can stream some of the best runs on YouTube or IMDB
America’s Got Talent
This seems like a circus show on the surface, but there are so many talented people who have stretched to get on this show. It’s so inspiring to me.
it's just a singing competition. These are people who do stunts, dances, magic, juggling, motorcycle acts, and more. Really, just about any sort of talent.
Yes, there are a few of the acts that are just worthless and the producers put them on for the pure entertainment value, but they wisely keep those to a minimum. Most of the performers are amazing.
One thing I really take away from this show is how little difference there is between good and great. One more practice session per week, or just a slight change in costuming or music and an act can go from good to great.
Just like life for the rest of us, the greatest determiner of success for these contestants is perserverence. The ones who make it are the ones who are doing what they love and never stop.
Relax This Weekend
Take some time to relax and be inspired this weekend. There are other great shows, but these are a fantastic starting point. I'd even suggest you open up that DVR and schedule these in so you catch the new episodes.
If there's a show I missed that should have been in here, reach out and let me know. I don't watch a lot of TV, but when I do, I want to make it time well spent.
Wed, 22 July 2015
For years, we’ve been programmed to believe that wanting money isn’t very noble. In fact, having lived most of my life in the Christian sub-culture, I’ve struggled with the idea that money is bad.
When I was 18, I was involved in Multi-Level Marketing and I was turned onto books like Think and Grow Rich, As a Man Thinketh, The Magic of Thinking Big and more. I was given these by Christian leaders in our business… and the books have this quasi-Christian undertone, but …
As I got older and I became more entrenched in the evangelical Christian culture, I heard a different message. It implied … money should be the last thing on which we focus.
Yes, most will say “it’s the love of money…” But as soon as you doing something in an effort to financially improve yourself, you’re made to feel like you’re loving money.
But there was a double-standard that popped up. There was this mixed message that was given.
It Seems Working for Money Is Frowned Upon but Asking for Money is Ok
I can tell you… money isn’t bad when there’s a ministry or organization that needs it. That’s when they go after people with a lot of money; wine and dine them and treat them like gold itself, in order to curry their favor and garner a donation.
I’ve worked in Christian radio for years and been bewildered by the difference in the message between normal days and the days when we’re raising money.
Most days, it’s a message that says life is about a lot more than money and we won’t find any satisfaction in have more money.
Pledge Drive or Share-a-thon days are filled with messages that say “money is the only thing that’s going to keep us afloat” and “we need three more people with a monthly gift of $20 right now.”
We vilify people with a lot of money all year long and then for two weeks we work to gain their favor.
If You Live in the Western World - You’re Rich.
Which makes me wonder, should I be driving around in a $10,000 car (not expensive at all) talking about how working for money is bad or less noble than something else?
I always struggled with the idea that we spend $50 on a night at the movies and convince people they shouldn’t focus on making money. It’s all relative. It all depends on what you believe is normal.
But, is there a permissible norm? If I grew up in a 20,000 square foot home with a parent driving a Bentley, what would I think is “focusing too much on money?"
If you grew up in a public housing project with one car to the family and it was barely running, what would you consider is “focusing too much on money?"
Isn’t it all relative? To one person a brand new Toyota is sacrificing and to another person this is a grand luxury.
So, What Does it All Come Down To?
It comes down to your heart.
All these moral rules we’re give are NOT about segregating those who will die and go up versus those who will die and go down. It’s just not…
All this morality we find about not loving money, is to keep us from mentally living in hell right now.
Loving money will leave you frustrated, in turmoil and and tormented by the chase. Love people, love service, love helping those who have a need.
When you do this, the world has a way of rewarding you with all the feelings you hope to get from having money.
Here’s an important distinction - Having money is great. Having money is an indicator you helped a lot of people get what they wanted.
This isn’t the case for everybody, but for someone who does what we said minutes ago, focuses on service and let’s the rewards come on their own, money is a great thing.
Serve More.. Have More.
But, this doesn’t answer my original question of whether WANTING money is wrong.
I honestly don’t think it’s a question of RIGHT vs WRONG.
It’s a matter of whether you’re doing what is healthiest for you. Is wanting a burger wrong? Is wanting a gin and tonic wrong?
If you want a gin and tonic because you’re hoping it will address your internal pain, it’s not WRONG in a good person vs bad-person kind of way, but it’s certainly not the best thing for you, given your needs.
The same goes for foods and yes, shopping.. houses, cars, vacations.
If you are seeking comfort for your soul in what you have, then you are honestly cutting yourself short of the amazing life you can have. Is that being a bad person or a person who is missing something?
Ask Yourself Today, What’s Motivating Me?
Try to shift to a motivation of service. Serve people. Joyously and generously give of yourself to others as they need. Don’t be foolish, don’t give something of value to you to someone who finds no value in it.
This is the scripture that says “Don’t cast your pearls before swine.”
This is just wisdom. It’s not some magical “I’ll make the God-daddy in the sky happy.” The God-man in the sky is nothing but happy. you can’t make our creator more or less happy.
Wed, 15 July 2015
If I had heard what I'm telling you in this episode, 20 years ago, I would be a millionaire several times over. This is number one thing that's stopped me from reaching my goals in the past. I'm so grateful I figured this out. I can't stress to you enough, learn what's in this episode and it will change your life.
Fears Stop Us
I go over the fears that stop us in a one page report I put together on the 5 Fears which kill out ability to finish. you can get it at PDesmondAdams.com/5fears or if you’re on your smart phone, send a TEXT to 33444 with the word 5Fears (all one word) in the body of the text.
Fear of Failure.. that’s one is easy for people to accept but...
Fear of Success, I’ve found is just as, if not MORE, likely to stop people. But how do you know if you have a fear of success? I go into that in the report I mentioned and a follow email I send just on that topic, but to give you an idea…. If we have a BURDENSOME view of what success looks like, we may fear it.
Fear of Mediocrity is a huge issue for me. If I’m not done with a project, then in my mind, it’s not mediocre.. it can’t be, because I’m not done with it. Think about that.
That’s just 3 of the 5 fears. It almost always comes down to fears which keep us busy but never finished.
Inertia - Don’t Stop Until It’s Done
This whole inertia thing you’ve heard about in science classes… it applied to your projects as well.
When you stop, you will have one hell of a time trying to get it started again.
If you’ve ever run a race you know first hand, when you slow down and eventually stop, you have a HUGE amount of mental and physical inertia to overcome.
Don’t stop… adjust your speed but never ever stop until you reach the finish line.
Take All You Want But Eat All You Take
When I was a kid, my dad always repeated the same thing, every meal.. He said he got it it from the Army (how could it be wrong..? haha): “Take all You Want But Eat All You Take.”
It’s actually a great mindset when it comes to our projects productivity. I mean, it’s not limiting an any way… Take all you want. Start as big a project as you desire. Set your dreams as high as you want. BUT...
Eat all you take. Meaning… if you’re going to pile up your plate, you better make sure you can eat it all. Finish what you started.
Leftovers on our plate, were eaten the next day… cold. Cold liver and onions are not that great… even if you like liver. haha..
I learned how to take a smaller bite… FINISH my plate of food and go in for another serving. Take all you want, but eat all you take.
Success Isn’t About What’s On Your Plate, It’s About What Isn’t.
Honestly, I find myself sometimes trying to impress people with what I’m doing… not what I’ve done, but what I’m doing…
Seriously, that’s not easy for me to admit. Sometimes I want people to think I’m doing something amazing… but I’m only doing it, I haven’t finished it.
If you’re in a food eating contesting, it’s not about how many hot dogs are on the plate in front of you, it’s about how many aren’t when the time is up.
Finish Something Today
Figure out what you can FINISH today. Maybe it’s a big task, a small project, or a major goal you set a while back. FINISH IT.
If there’s nothing within your sights, reset your definition of “FINISHED.”
In other words, grab a smaller plate and FINISH that plate