Mon, 29 June 2015
I wish every person I love would listen to what's on this episode. I'm honestly incredibly proud of what is put out on here. In fact, I believe this is one of those moments when I just let the Infinite wisdom of the Universe speak through me.
We only get stronger physically when we engage in physical resistance, like weight training. We purposely cause ourselves to confront and deal with that sort of resistance.
But, why don't we do the same thing emotionally? In fact, emotionally, we oftentimes work tirelessly to avoid the resistance that comes naturally. We hope that we can some day have enough financially to help us avoid the resistance that comes emotionally.
Listen to this episode and share it with everyone you know so they can realize that the pain we're struggling through right now is going to make us strong so the burdens which will come in the future will be much lighter.
The past way for me to make your life better is to help you struggle through the burdens of today.
Fri, 26 June 2015
You know that feeling… when you put on your favorite jeans and … uh oh, they’re a little snug.
Or you look down at your shirt and you notice the buttons are straining a little more than you’d like, to keep things closed up.
That’s what happened to me.
Why Physical Success Has Been a Struggle For Me
Two things that work against me… I LOVE food. Seriously…
The other thing, I don’t don't LOVE exercise. I love competitive sports, but just getting out and going for run around the neighborhood, or picking up some weights and doing some curls… It’s boring to me.
This Is Why I'm Using the MyFitnessPal App and Website
Here's how this fantastic app works:
You start off simple. How many calories go in versus many calories are consumed
How much do you weigh?
How much do you want to lose (or gain) per week (up to 2 lbs a week)
Then it knows how many calories you need to reach that goal
How active are you?
It then adjust your calorie goal based on that projected activity level and then adjust it based on your real activity level.
Now you know how many calories you can consume each day and still hit your weight loss.
For me, given my current weight, I can consume 1,427 calories per day if I want to lose 2 lbs per week.
I’m mildly active so it adds in 25-30 calories for exercise which brings me to about 1,450 calories per day.
It adjusts based on your actual activity level (iPhone Health app - MapMyRun - FitBit - More)
Set Your MacroNutrient Ratios
If you’re a low fat person, you your fat percentage goal at 20% - 40% Protein and 40% Carbs. It will give you a scale to monitor.
If you add a food item to a meal, it will tell you right then and there that you’ve gone over or that this food is high in a nutrient you’re trying to keep low.
You can monitor this closely
Adding Food You’ve Eaten
This is the beauty of this app. There are SO MANY items.
I love using the barcode scanner. It has yet to miss an item.
Everything I’ve scanned has been in the system. It’s amazing.
You can search for homemade or store bought foods
There’s a massive database. People are adding the most popular recipes from you favorite websites like Food.com, AllRecipes, Epicurious, MyRecipe, and more
If it’s not there…
You can add recipes
Easy to add recipes - Type in the web address of the recipe, make sure it’s imported everything correctly and tell it how much you ate. All done.
Checks your Step Count Automatically
As you walk through your day, MyFitnessPal will automatically update based on the number of steps you take. This is already built into your iOS device, and I believe into many Androids.
If you do more than walking, just enter it like you do your food. The database is full of exercises.
Crossfit WOD’s? They’re in the system.
Your favorite machine at the gym? It’s in the system.
This is the beauty of the app
Measure Your Results
Obviously, it tracks your weight whenever you update it
It can also track any other measurement you’d like.
Everything is easy to track.
There’s even a social element to the app as others you know who use the app see your updates and give you encouragement. It’s not on your Facebook page, if you don’t want it to be. They see it when they check in with their app, so it’s not public.
It’s a Great App to Make Sure You Stay on Target
Like your time meter
Like your financial budget
You don’t just use it when you’re in trouble… use it to keep you OUT of trouble.
Success is a well rounded life. Not a well rounded body…
Wed, 24 June 2015
In this episode, we explore the following five quotes from the author James Allen (Wiki Link).
James Allen is the author of As a Man Thinketh (it's free on Kindle).
Here are 5 of my favorite quotes from James Allen:
Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound.
The man who thinks hateful thoughts brings hatred upon himself. The man who thinks loving thoughts is loved.
The man who sows wrong thoughts and deeds and prays that God will bless him is in the position of a farmer who, having sown tares, asks God to bring forth for him a harvest of wheat.
The law of harvest is to reap more than you sow. Sow an act, and you reap a habit. Sow a habit and you reap a character. Sow a character and you reap a destiny.
The outer conditions of a person's life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state...Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.
Tue, 23 June 2015
As I mention in the intro, this show focuses on something I like to call “success for failures.”
The only thing is… most of us who have been made to feel like failures have so because we haven’t been able to do well on the "Grit Test."
The Grit Test
The Grit Test was developed by Harvard Research Angela Duckworth.
She went over decades of data on what brought people to greatness in life and she came up with two major factors:
People who didn’t change course just because they wanted a change. Something new.
People who didn’t change course just because the current one become difficult. Maybe that’s you.
As you can see, at the core of what she looked at was the ability to stick to the course you’re one. Basically … GRIT. Making it to the finish line…
G-R-I-T Predicts Success More Than S-A-T
Angela Duckworth took her study of grit to Penn State
She tested incoming students and found the ones with a high grit score but a low entrance exam, ended up having a higher GPA than those with a lower Grit score but higher SAT.
Smarter Kids Don’t Have to Try As Hard
Looking further into the studies of Angela Duckworth, we see how she discovered young children in a spelling bee who had a higher grit score but lower verbal IQ ended up doing just as well as students with a higher IQ and lower Grit score.
This means yes, the kids with a higher IQ could perform as well without trying as hard. But…
Here’s some hope for you…
Her studies indicated, even the kids with lower IQ’s and less self-control (less fidgety and able to do what they’re told) who had a high grit score ended up doing just as well as the kids with higher IQ’s.
So Do You Have Grit?
Let’s look at how you do on the grit test. You have to be honest or you’re not going to find out anything real.
Here are my results:
Total = 33 (average 2.75)
I will say… that’s tough to see… but it also lets me know.. I have to remind myself all the time to push on… show that grit. Keep going when I want to quit. Being conscious of it is what will help you overcome.
I’ve increased my number from where I was 10 years ago, I know that for sure. So can you.
Call to Action
Take the grit test and see what you come up with. Let me know what you get.
Tue, 23 June 2015
Today, the 22nd, as I record this, is my birthday. Along with birthdays comes… birthday … cake.
Wow, I can NOT focus after that piece of birthday cake.
I’m telling you, I’m distracted and unable to finish what I’ve started. It’s a struggle to do the outline for this show.
Let’s talk about why this happens and what we can do to not only avoid it, but reverse the scenario, and it doesn't just come from cake.
Glucose is Our Fuel
Glucose is what most of our food turns into and it’s what we need for energy. Without it, we crash and burn. We have zero energy.
Research indicates the optimum level of glucose in our blood stream is 25 grams. That’s about what you’ll get from one banana but keep in mind, that glucose is consumed over time. So you have to work at keeping your levels balanced.
Too high and you suffer, too low and you suffer.
You can do that by regulating your intake through grazing or by eating foods that are low on the Glycemic Index, which means they release glucose more slowly…
Tyrosine is an amino acid that makes you feel energized and alert. It is one of the ones that can cross the blood-brain barrier.
Tryptophan is another one, which has a calming effect.
Foods that are high in Tyrosine and are Low GI foods:
High Glycemic foods (AVOID):
Think about what most kids are eating today in the West. Is it any wonder we think they all have ADHD?
I would love to know if you have a snack you enjoy which doesn't cause you to crash and burn in the afternoons.
Mon, 22 June 2015
Follow me for a minute…
Every single person can have someone else look at them and think “Wow, they are messed up."
Do you think, if you followed this along for 10, 20, 100 or 1000 levels or more, you’d eventually get to someone who just has it all figured out and they’re doing fantastic?
Following this path, do you think this is a progression UPWARD in character?
Is this is character pyramid and there’s one person at the very top who has it all figured out and is beyond the judgement of others?
No. you’re right. The person we reach after following this path for 1,000 occurrences probably has 10 people who could look at certain areas of their life and think “Wow, they are messed up."
In fact, here’s what we’d find out.
Some of those people who are looking judgmentally at that 1,000th person were ones someone looked down at 300 people ago, or 250 people ago.
The truth is, it’s all a giant CIRCLE of judgement.
After we’re gone through 1,000 iterations of judgement, we’re guaranteed to have a good number of the people who were judged earlier, back in the judgement game again.
It’s almost like a never ending game of leap frog. Once someone jumps over you, it’s time to get back in line waiting for your next turn to jump over someone else… and then have someone jump over you.
It’s the Judgement Circle, inside of which we all get trapped.
A perpetual game of judgement.
There’s only one escape route… and that’s to refuse to get back in line once someone has jumped over (or judged) you. Just don’t get back in line waiting to jump over (or judge) someone else.
When we jump out of the chain, we set ourselves apart from that game.
BE CAREFUL! - This is a prime place to start judging in another way. “Those fools and all their judgement games.” Ah hah! See, there you area again, back in the game yourself.
We won’t completely eliminate the judgement others have on us, but we will slow it down dramatically.
Continue on this path and I promise, you’ll see an EXPONENTIAL DECREASE in the judgement you experience in your life.
By the very nature of things, you’ll find you change who you spend time with in life and you will decrease the power of those who are still in the chain.
Remember what I always say: Change the world around you by changing the world within you.
It will be like avoid your greatest food temptation. Maybe it’s a the perfect piece of chocolate or a beautiful basket of fried onion rings (I’m more of a crunchy salty person when it comes to temptation).
The less you taste of it, the less your craving for it becomes. The more you see the benefits of avoiding it, the greater your ability to resist it.
Call to Action
Start this with baby steps, as I always say.
Today, when you are tempted to even THINK judgementally towards someone, don’t do it.
Call yourself out and say, even out loud, if you can “I don’t know that persons situation. I don’t know what brought them here. I know they have strengths where I have weaknesses. I will allow them to be them."
Something along those lines to remind yourself, you may be able to jump over them (or judge them) in this area, but further down the chain, in another area, they’re going to be able to jump over you.
Just one time… and then remember it. Tomorrow try to do it two times you’re tempted. Or even today.
Just work at it, consciously avoiding the opportunity to jump into The Judgement Circle.
Oh, yes, you’re right… I mess this up more times than I care to think. But, I consciously work to avoid the circle. That’s what I’m hoping you’ll do as well.
We’re all in this together, all “failures” in some area of life, working towards success in others. Continuously improving and celebrating together.
Fri, 19 June 2015
If you listened to this past Tuesday’s episode, I shared with you some ways you can help yourself become more productive, as I do every Tuesday.
One of those ways I suggested was to create deadlines with very real consequences. The kind of consequences you’re going to do whatever you can to avoid.
Today I’m sharing with you and app that will help you do exactly that.
This is an app that comes out of Yale University. It’s legit. It’s got a lot of science behind it and it works!
Professor Dean Karlan teaches Economics and Professor Ian Ayers teaches law, both at Yale University. They partnered with one of their students, Jordan Goldberg, to create a tool they knew would help people achieve their goals, and it works. Here’s why…
Stickk gives you a platform where you can create what the founders call Commitment Contracts.
This is a contract you create with YOURSELF, but… there’s more to it than that. We’ve all tried that and seen it fail time and time again.
A Commitment Contract involves accountability and the power of “loss aversion."
You know what accountability is, but what about LOSS AVERSION?
You can figure out from the name, it’s about avoiding loss. But why? Why not just be motivated by gain?
Scientific studies suggest people are TWICE as motivated by avoiding loss than achieving a gain. People who lose $100 will be emotionally impacted more than someone who gains $100.
It’s because we don’t value what we don’t have. The potential to gain $100 will not motivate you as much as the real potential to lose $100. That’s the science, in a nutshell, of “Loss Aversion."
Here’s how it works:
Stickk has some predefined goals which you can use or even customize them to meet your needs. If those don’t work, you have the ability to build your own goal from scratch.
So, you start by creating a goal and then laying out the parameters of that goal. What will it take to achieve that goal and what are the specific things you have to do to get there?
Now, here’s where Stickk kicks in with some very real and powerful features.
Losing Money and Having an Honest Referee.
The creators of Stickk state that their data shows, people who have a referee to whom they’re accountable, are TWICE as likely to reach their goal. People who have something financially significant at stake are up to THREE times as likely to achieve their goal.
Put the power of both of those items together and you have Stickk.
When you sign in, you’ll have the opportunity to create a Commitment Contract where you can put something financial on the line. They don’t charge you ANYTHING unless you tell them you want to make the financial commitment and then only after you don’t achieve your goal.
So, what keeps us from cheating and just saying we did it? A referee who will look at your Commitment Journal to determine if you’re reaching your goal.
This journal is where you can post screenshots or pictures of you doing what you said you would do.
Now, it’s not just about having someone lord over you, it’s also about support. You can add in supporters who can see your commitment and progress and then cheer you along. It’s the perfect combination to getting where you want to be in life.
Your referee can be anybody you’d like.
Each time you take action toward your goal, you submit that information to Stickk and your referee will get an email saying you submitted something to your Stickk account. If they’d like, they can ask you for additional proof that you did what you said you did, or be satisfied with what you submitted.
You’re really empowering your referee. So, choose someone you trust but also make sure it’s someone you know will hold you accountable.
Here’s how you miss a goal:
You admit you missed it.
Your referee reports that you missed it
You don’t submit a commitment report in the time window you specified.
When you miss, if you have a financial stake included, your credit or debit card will be charged for the amount you set at the beginning.
As of this podcast, there is $21 million on the line for commitments.
There are just under 300,000 commitments.
That’s an average of about $72 on the line for each commitment. Make sure you choose an amount that’s going to HURT if you lose it.
Where does the money go?
You decide that. You can have it go to someone you want, or even have it go to a charity. Stickk holds the money for the charities and sends them all the stake money at one time at the end of the year. Some of the organizations they support are:
and several others.
Here’s a fun twist. You can create an Anti-Charity as a recipient of your stake.
This is a group or organization you would NEVER want to support financially. That adds a HUGE motivator for some people.
How’s this for some controversial groups?
Or if you’re in the UK:
Various football (or soccer) fan clubs such as
So, I’m sure you can see how this could be VERY motivating if you choose to put enough on the line. For some of these more issues, any amount would be agonizing… for a Chelsea fan to give a penny to the Man U fan club is traumatizing.
Create some of your own… maybe your ex-husband or ex-wife. Maybe your brother who’s living in your basement supposedly unable to get a job. I’m sure you can think of some people to whom you don’t want to send ANY money.
Call to Action
Sign up and make a commitment contract for yourself. If you’d like me to referee, I’d love to help out. You’ll find me in the system as “PDesmond.”
Wed, 17 June 2015
Events don’t have meaning - We give the events meaning
The meaning of events exists only in our mind. Outside of our mind, the events have no meaning at all.
Our emotional response to events comes from the meaning we give them and the way we FEEL about that meaning. So, given the fact that our emotions are based on our reaction to the meaning of an event and we create the meaning of the event, then we control our emotions.
Peace doesn’t come when we have peace around us, but when we have peace within us.
See, we give events meaning in our minds. Our emotional response to events is based on the meaning they have. So when we have peace within, it doesn’t matter what happens outside of us, we will have peace. Peace is independent of what is happening around us.
Let’s look at how one may react to a particular situation given our internal state.
Saturday morning, you open up your weather app and you see that it’s supposed to be 95 degrees with nothing but sunshine. How do you react to that?
If you were planning on going to the beach and spending some time in the water with your family, that’s a fantastic event. This means the water is going to feel great and the sun will help us get a tan.
If you were planning on pulling out some old tree stumps in the yard, that’s a horrible forecast. It’s going to be hot and the sun is provably going to burn you.
The event is the exact same thing… a weather forecast. The meaning of the event is determined internally.
If you just planted some grass seed and it starts raining, you react with happiness. This will help.
If your lawn needs to be mowed and it starts raining, you react disappointed, as you won’t be able to cut it until tomorrow.
There’s a verse in the the book of Matthew that says the rain falls on those who are good and those who are bad. The rain has no meaning. One sees the rain as good and the other bad. Tomorrow it could be reversed. The rain has no meaning.
Here’s a Personal Example - My View of Myself as Not Good Enough.
I’m in my late 40’s and my entire life, I’ve had a limiting belief that I was inferior to others. I wasn’t as good as my brothers and pretty much anyone else who I worked or lived life with.
I’ve shared this with you before, I’m the youngest in my family and honestly, I don’t have a lot of memories of my parents telling me I wasn’t good enough, but I do have a LOT of memories of that being associated with my older brothers. They’re about a year apart in age. This means, they did a lot of things at the same time. Tying shoes, riding a bike, hitting a baseball and learning to throw a football.
I was 4 and 5 years younger than them which isn’t a big deal at age 47, or even 27, but when you’re 7 and they’re 11 and 12, that’s a lifetime of difference, almost literally twice my age. They had learned twice as much as I had and they were at least twice as good as I was.
Because kids that age were able to go further from the house, our street would often have teenagers playing football or baseball with kids from several streets over. There never were that many kids on my street that were my age. So I was trying to fit in and play with kids who ere almost twice my age.
You can imagine how this made me feel. The one thing everyone valued, throwing or catching a football, or throwing, hitting and catching a baseball, I sucked at. This made me feel like I wasn’t good enough.
My brothers, like a LOT of older siblings, were pretty much forced to watch their little brother if they wanted to go do something. Mom and dad would say keep an eye on your little brother.”
But I wasn’t bad at everything, only the thing that this group was really good at, sports. As I got older, even in middle school, I never wanted to play team sports. I always opted to run laps around the baseball field instead of actually playing baseball. In high school, I didn’t try out for football or baseball, but instead, I joined the track team where I could compete on my own. I was good at running.
I was also good at being goofy and entertaining people. But that wasn’t really valued when you’re trying to beat the kids from the next block over. In fact, it was seen as a negative. “Come on, be serious, focus!”
Focus? I was the "King of Imagination.: I could take my GI Joe Command RV center and play for hours on end in my room. I remember having a rock fireplace and I would take my little army men and have them mount massive battles that would last two or three hours. Focus? That means turning off my imagination.
Imagine if we had a street full of kids all doing a talent show, with magic, juggling, ventriloquism and puppets. How much of an expert would that jock feel like? They can throw a ball, big deal, that doesn’t win you much in a talent show. All of a sudden they would have thoughts like “I’m not good enough."
I Gave Meaning to That Event.
There was no meaning in those footballs games other than the meaning I gave them in my own mind. Because I wanted to fit in with my older brothers and their friends, the meaning of the football game was HUGE. It determined whether I was good enough or not.
This is why it’s SO important to invest in offering your kids activities in which they can do well. Have a boy who loves to dance? Don’t take him to try out for baseball, even if you played it and you can’t wait to coach the team. He’s going to grow up feeling like he’s not good enough, in general.
Have a little girl who loves to build stuff in the garage? Mom, you need to take her to Home Depot for those fun weekend DIY workshops, even though you really wanted to help choreograph the dance recital because you loved to dance.
Know Your Real Identity
To this day, I have moments when I struggle and am influenced by my inability to do the things my siblings and peers are capable of doing.
I will say, I’ve become a LOT stronger than ever and I understand my gifting and where my talents lay. I know my gift is in communications and entertainment, not in piecing together the electronics needed to put on the show or course or whatever.
I’ve become so confident in my own ability in my own areas of expertise that I’m no longer intimidated by the pressures put on my by others. So much so, I was recently told I was being riightously indignant because I wouldn’t allow someone else to tell me I wasn’t as good of a person because I wasn’t talented in the same areas they were talented. It hurt, but I know why it was said. I’m ok with it. But, I’m not going to leave the door wide open to it.
You Are Good Enough
Understand, you may have a very narrow area of talent, but that talent is important if you make it important. Surround yourself with people who don’t value it, and you’ll feel like you’re a worthless excuse for a life.
When you shift over to a group who value your very narrow and specialized gift and you’ll suddenly feel like the world couldn’t go on without you.
My life and my sense of worth changed 180 degrees when I went from working in a lab inventing electronic material compounds to being the goofy sidekick on a morning radio show. I was told I had an amazing talent for connecting with people emotionally and that I would go far with that gift. WHAT? I thought that gift was a burden… at least it seemed like one when PhD’s were in a lab doing experiments and I was cracking jokes. Haha…
Call to Action
So, understand your place and don’t let others values determine your value. Remember, the events in your life have no meaning other than the meaning YOU put on them.
Tue, 16 June 2015
Truth is, you’re incredibly unlikely to reach any goal you set if you don’t have the habits needed to make it happen. If it’s going to be grueling work the entire time, you’re increasing your chances for failure several times over.
Last Wednesday we talked about how we can lose our willpower and self-discipline when it’s needed in numerous areas at the same time.
Discover Where You’ll Need Will Power
Let’s say you set a goal of “fitting into your old prom dress before your class reunion in 9 months."
If that’s your goal, you’re immediately going to start doing some things that probably aren’t habits for you at this point. Thinks like:
If you try to do ALL of those things at the exact same time, you’re probably going to fail. Your willpower and self-discipline is going to be so incredibly fatigued that you will probably fail.
But, most of us don’t really sit down and think about those things when we set the goal of “Fit into my old prom dress before the class reunion in 9 months."
Break Down The Goal Into The Needed Habits
Look at any one of your biggest goals, maybe launching a podcast, or starting an online business, or maybe learning to play the guitar. Look at that goal and write down the habits you’d need to have in order to support that goal.
Honestly evaluate whether each one of those items is already a habit of yours.
Make the Habit The Goal First
Once you have the list of habits, decide if any of them will support or help learning additional habits. For example, if reading 15 minutes a day is a habit, that might be a good one to focus on first, because it can help support your habit of writing every day. But don’t do them both at the same time. Make reading a habit then work on making writing a habit.
Spend your willpower energy on one habit at a time until the energy it takes is so small, you can easily start the next habit. Some say it’s 21 days and others say it’s over 60, on average. Some things may take even longer.
As you do this, you’ll find that the goal you had set will start to take care of itself.
The pieces will all fall together and it will seem that you’re barreling towards your bigger goal at a speed you never imagined and it’s seeming like it’s taking no effort at all.
One desired habit until it’s developed, then go on to the next one. This means you may have to project out a bit further when it comes to the ultimate goal, but it’s well worth it when you realize your chances for success have increased dramatically.
Habits Cross-Over and Benefit Future Goals
That’s more good news in this, the more you develop habits to support your goals, the more habits you’ll have for future goals.
There are some habits that will cross over into other areas. In the future you won’t have to develop those ones as they’re already there for you.
This is why it seems successful people can be successful at so many things in life. I mean the really truly successful, not just the ones making a lot of money. Remember, money doesn’t define success.
This is how some people are said to have “the Midas Touch” which means “everything they touch turns to gold.” It’s because they’ve got the core habits already in place.
Call to Action
Look at your biggest goal up ahead.
Write done the habits you’ll need to accomplish the goal
Focus on the one habit which will have the greatest impact on the other habits and the eventual goal.
Mon, 15 June 2015
If you're anything like me, you do your best work when you're facing a very real deadline with serious consequences or when you're part of group who you need to keep up with cause the entire group to fall behind.
In this episode, we look at ways we can capitalize on this for increasing our daily productivity. Give these a try in your day and let me know what worked best for you.
Hire an employee who runs faster than you. Someone you have to work at to keep up with.
Someone who is nipping at your heels and ready to do your job.
This will make you feel like you’re falling behind every step of the way. Talk about last minute… talk about forcing you to do more.
Join a Group Who Are Doing More Than You.
I experienced this lesson myself this past year, with this podcast.
I went with a friend of mine, Jeff Brown, the host of the Read to Lead Podcast, which I highly recommend you listen to regularly, to New Media Expo in Las Vegas. Jeff, my friend, was a superstar at this event.
People were walking up to Jeff, excited to meet him and talk to him about how he does his show.
Even people who were incredibly successful with their business were thrilled to say high to Jeff.
AND THEY SHOULD BE.. he’s an incredible talent and does a great job.
But, Jeff and I have very similar backgrounds in broadcasting. We have been coached by the same people and even done national radio shows on the same exact network. He ran one station on our network while I ran another one… a bigger one… with a bigger audience. Not because I’m better, it’s just because there’s a larger potential audience.
This was my peer and he had jumped WAY ahead of me… I had fallen behind.
What was his secret? What was the magic ingredient that put him further ahead?
Jeff consistently, without fanfare put out a very high quality show every week. Nearly without fail.
This motivated me to make that a priority for me. Consistently put out a great show, for me, every day. That was going to be my one singular focus. That is what comes first for me each day in my business. Do that show and then when that’s done, do whatever else fits in.
SO… Surround Yourself With People Ahead of You.
Create Deadlines with CONSEQUENCES
Another way to do give yourself the sense that you’re falling behind is to actually have deadlines which you risk missing.
Have you created deadlines for your tasks or just dates when you hope they’ll be done?
This is especially important when you’re self-employed. You set the deadlines.
Of course, clients can do that for you too, but what about when your clients quietly disappear when you miss a deadline? IF you’re a blogger or podcaster, or maybe you have a YouTube channel? What about when you can say “Well, that’s ok, I’ll just skip this week…. “ ?
You have to create deadlines with consequences.
A great way to do this is with an accountability partner or group. A mastermind...
This is one of the huge benefits of a mastermind group. When you say to your peers “I’ll have X done by next weeks meeting.” You then have to put your character on the line. You have to put your ego on the line.
If you’re mastermind group or accountability partners aren’t challenging you to keep your bond, you have to find another group. You need people who aren’t afraid to call you out in a very serious way when you repeatedly fail.
You have to create a false boss who you fear failing as much as you would a real boss.
This is why a personal trainer will help people get into shape -
If you work out five days a week and meet with a trainer one day, you will put more into those other 4 days because you don’t want to have to face them and say “I didn’t do what I told you I would do.”
There are some apps available that will help with this as well. They create very real consequences for failing to hit your goals.
I’m going to save these for this Friday’s episode. Each Friday I like to share a tool or resource which you can try out over the weekend. This last week, I shared the Hours and Jiffy apps for tracking your time during the day so you can find out what’s causing so much of it to seemingly disappear.
I’m still using Hours even as I write these notes. It’s helped tremendously.
This Friday I’ll share a few apps for keeping yourself accountable for what you promise you’re going to do.
Call to Action
Force yourself to fall behind today. Not by doing nothing… fall behind by surrounding yourself with people who are just ahead.
Create or join a mastermind or accountability group. Do something to help you feel like you have very read deadlines.
Create task deadlines and tell someone about them so you have to fess up if you don’t achieve them.